Family-owned Businesses - A Human Story: Part 4
Part 4 - WELCOME TO THE FAMILY
In ‘Welcome to the Family’, Amrop provides guidance for executives in their first few months in a family-owned business. We unpack the 4 critical stages in the joining process, and present 5 keys to driving strategy in an FOB.
We identify the core attitudes, behaviors and actions that will equip them for success in this special context - and why they are so necessary.
This series is based on the insights of senior Amrop Partners around the world. Professionals who have cultivated deep and trusting relationships with owners and successors.

Cofra, the family owner of the retail multinational C&A, began life in 1841 as a clothing warehouse set up by two brothers. Today it is eyeing new horizons: sustainable food and clean energy. The Financial Times recently reported that Cofra’s Brenninkmeijer family have “evolved a particular way of conserving family control and managing succession based on a blend of family and professional management.”1 Family members now see joining the business as a choice rather than an obligation. The current CEO, Boudewijn Beerkens, (whose mother was a Brenninkmeijer) has been in post since 2019. But he did not begin his career in the family firm. Instead, he was a Partner at PwC, the CFO of WK NV and then CFO of Dutch conglomerate SHV until 2016, when he joined the family group as Chief Strategy and Operations Officer.
This family business clearly values outsiders. How could life look for an incoming executive in an FOB? One Amrop Partner relates a meeting in the grand dining room of one of country’s foremost families. Its walls were lined with the portraits of venerable ancestors, peering down on the people assembled there. It was as if they were challenging them to safeguard the legacy, he said. Don’t mess up.
Any journey has critical development stages. In our exploration of the FOB lifecycle,2 Amrop tracked the major forks in the road: from foundation to succession, changes in finance and ownership, fundamental business transformations and governance shifts. Finally, with listed status and growth, standardization may come: the distinction between FOBs and other businesses begins to blur. Still, unique factors will likely linger. As an executive entering an FOB, we invite you to identify the chapter your new employer is currently in - and foresee what’s next.
7 Cultural Facets of FOBs
As discussed in our previous article,3 FOBs have distinctive and deep characteristics, rooted in their founder’s DNA. These pass to subsequent generations and incarnations of the business: from ownership shifts, to the family office, global growth and listing. Whilst each firm is culturally unique, our interviews revealed seven over-arching facets of ‘the way we do things around here.’
- Deep Determination. Space given to debating, reflection, planning and testing. Conservative risk management and investment.
- Tight-knit Discretion. Executives maintain a low public profile. Admission to an FOB requires the endorsement of trusted advisors, relationships are then deep and enduring.
- To the Point. A tendency towards more straightforward organizational structures; the family ultimately decides.
- Two-way Mirror. A long-term view on value creation. The legacy of many storms weathered.
- Entrepreneurial DNA. Solution-focus, collaboration and pragmatism. The ‘owner-attitude’ is appreciated, and work-life boundaries blurred.
- Stable Homogeneity. Solid engineering and a longstanding purpose. A preference for like-minded people, evolution over revolution.
- Expectant Caring. A passion for the business and its loyal stakeholders, with generosity both expected and given, and an above-average failure tolerance.
The Versatile Leader
The fit with your new home vitally depends upon your leadership style. Amrop’s examination of executive hiring in FOBs4 revealed 8 indicators for top candidates. You are patient, collaborative, diplomatic and humble on the one hand. Transformative, entrepreneurial, agile and focused on the other.
Applying the range of styles matters, because as an FOB executive you’ll face a two-headed leadership paradox: the need to assure continuity and change. Consider the dynamics (and understandable sensitivities) at play: the owners are building on a hard-earned legacy. The firm must evolve whilst preserving the bases. Fortunately, it is perfectly feasible to rise from ‘or-or’ to ‘and-and’ thinking. To get the best of both worlds in innovative ways. Furthermore, our 8 indicators counterbalance each other. A leader can be ‘collaboratively focused’. Or ‘patiently transformative’. As the authors of a compelling work on leadership agility5 argue, effective leadership is not a straightjacket. Rather, it is about “understanding your current way of building relationships and influencing people, then stretching yourself to include neighbouring styles, just outside of your current comfort zone.”
But there is more. Depending on the FOB’s lifecycle phase, it may be pushed and pulled by other tensions such as family versus business. It must address growing numbers of relations (founder, children, cousins) as well as an increasingly complex business.
An Interplay of Light and Shadow
There is yet another reason for versatility. The ‘Core Quadrant’6 proposes that we all possess innate qualities. Each, when taken to its extreme, becomes a pitfall. In an FOB, ‘entrepreneurialism’ is a prime example. “You have to find somebody who isn’t aggressively ambitious,” says this Amrop Partner. “Who’s highly talented and skilled but capable of fitting in.” With practice, a growth mindset and coaching, an executive will naturally learn to combine leadership styles and tread the middle path. But first impressions do count. Given the importance of swiftly establishing credibility and trust in an FOB, the newcomer is advised to acquire a certain virtuosity before joining.
As seen7 a good executive search consultant will be discretely spotting signals in a candidate’s attitudes and behavior throughout the hiring process. One Amrop Partner recalls a candidate from a large corporate who failed to grasp the nuances of the FOB role on offer: “I'm now the Regional CFO of Asia Pacific, multiple countries. I'm this big guy.” Meanwhile the hiring firm was an independent local listed company. “This CFO role was much richer and wider.” A candidate will fall off the radar if ego or status blinds them to such value.
References & Further Reading
1 Hill, A., ‘Family business and the succession trap’, March 12, 2023, The Financial Times
2 Family-owned businesses, a human story: Lifecycle. (2025). Amrop
3 Family-owned businesses, a human story: Culture. (2025). Amrop
4, 7, Family-owned businesses, a human story: Finding the leaders for what’s next. (2025). Amrop
5 Meyer, R., Meijers, R., (2017). Leadership Agility, Developing Your Repertoire of Leadership Styles. Routledge
⁶ Developed by consultant and author Daniel Ofman
8 The Amrop Talent Observatory, (2021). Amrop
⁹ Cuneo, F., Guinea, F., (2016). Make or Break? Why transition coaching is critical for incoming executives. Amrop.
10 Stolker, J., (2023). ‘Het Spel in de Boardroom, een introductie in behavioral governance.’ Boom.
11 Leading in positive, Pedro Ferrer. CEDE and Deloitte.
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